Hey! Can You Help Me Please?

I had a bad fight with my wife today…and I think it may help your English…

Read my message and tell me what you think I should do…it’s kind of long, but I think you might be able to help me…

And besides I have a big confession to make…so, let’s get started so I can get this off my chest…

Dear English Students,

First of all, I want to tell you that I love you guys.

I really do.

You guys inspire me and make me want to be a better teacher.

You make me want to do my best.

I really want to help you learn English.

  1. I want to help you develop your listening skills so you can understand what you hear when you listen to music, watch movies, and talk with native speakers.
  2. I want to help you develop your speaking skills so you can express yourself well…improve your pronunciation…and reduce your accent.
  3. And I want to help you learn how to study English more efficiently, manage your time, find good resources, and materials, etc.

That’s always been my goal actually, but…

I feel like I’ve failed you.

It’s not that I haven’t tried, I really have. Honestly.

But I just don’t think that I’ve done a good job.

Actually, I thought helping you meant

  • creating great courses,
  • creating a better blog,
  • writing better emails,
  • learning how to edit better videos.

And I’ve spent a lot of time over the last ten years working really hard on that stuff.

I’ve learned a lot improved my life in a lot of areas.

But I just don’t think that all of that is what you needed.

It’s like I was more focused on what I wanted more than what you needed.

See, I like learning and studying and improving myself.

And I’ve been using this site and blog as a way to get what I wanted.

  • I’ve had a lot of fun,
  • I’ve met some amazing people, and
  • Done some incredible things.

But I don’t want to make this about me or what I think I should do.

Because I spend a lot of time

  • writing posts,
  • creating emails,
  • recording videos, and
  • stuff like that…

That feel like sometimes I’m writing about what I think you need to know.

Good stuff…

But maybe not the information you need.

Now, why am I thinking about all this right now?

Because today I had a fight with my wife.

Not a bad fight…

Like she didn’t throw any pans at me or anything…

But it made me think about some things…

Now, I know you’re probably pretty curious as to what we fought about.

Right?

Well, it was stupid really.

So, I’ll tell you.

I had this idea.

I thought it was a really good idea.

It came to me in the middle of the night.

I don’t know if I was dreaming…

Or if I was just half awake and the thought slipped into my mind.

But when I woke up, it was the first thing I told her.

Now, I probably should have said ‘good morning’ and given her a kiss and all that romantic stuff.

But I just blurted out the idea.

I said, ‘I had this great idea and you should do it.’.

Well, she didn’t like my idea and started telling me all the reasons why it wouldn’t work for her.

And I kept trying to persuade her that it would.

And she kept telling me why it wouldn’t.

And then she did something that really makes me angry.

She started pointing out mistakes that I’ve made in the past to prove that it wouldn’t work.

And then she went on to tell me some things that she didn’t think I was doing right.

I was…but I just hadn’t told her yet.

It’s not that it was a secret.

But I just think that sometimes we have to do things and let the results speak for themselves.

So, at this point I told her that it was just an idea and if she didn’t like it…that was okay.

“But don’t try to ruin my day because I was just trying to help”, I said.

Because I was…in a really good mood.

I woke up feeling happy and great.

And I really didn’t want to ruin that feeling.

Here’s What I Did Wrong

But I had raised my voice, and I was talking louder than I normally would.

I wasn’t yelling.

But I was using the ‘BIG’ voice that men should never, ever use with their wives if they want to keep peace and harmony in the home.

You know. That ‘I’m a man and I deserve respect’ kind of good that us men like to use sometimes…

Just to feel like a man…

But that women probably hate and just pisses them off.

Now, I don’t really know because I’m not a woman.

I’m just guessing here…

But if I was a woman…I sure wouldn’t like someone talking to me like that.

And I’m just guessing because that just seems to be what I observe when I watch other couples fighting.

Well anyway, by that time it was late…

So, she just turned around, grabbed her backpack, and stomped out the door.

So, I know I’ll have to apologize later.

Even though I don’t feel like I did anything wrong.

Of course not. I’m never wrong and I’m always right.

It’s all the other person’s fault.

But still, I blew it by losing my cool and letting things escalate to that point.

What Does This Have To Do With Your English?

So, by now you’re probably wondering…

“David, what in the world does this have to do with you helping me learn English?”

Well, I’m getting there.

So, just hang on to your horses.

Anyway, I ate breakfast and then came outside to ‘analyze’ things.

And I realized that this happens a lot with English students.

They tell me they have a problem.

And of course, I want to give them a solution.

Only natural. Right.

I’ve learned

  • Portugese
  • a bit of French and
  • even started German.

I’ve been teaching English for almost 16 years now.

Started or helped start 6 English schools.

And this I think about this stuff almost everyday.

  • I study it,
  • research it,
  • talk about it,
  • blog about it, and
  • make videos about it.

And I’m out here giving away ideas everyday.

But today I started thinking…that maybe the ideas aren’t what you really need or want.

I mean ideas are good. Right?

But ideas have to be give to the right person at the right time and in the right situation.

Like…for the right person…the idea will be the exact solution to a problem that they have.

The light bulb will click on…and they’ll say “Whoa, David! That’s amazing. Thanks.”

But for everybody else, the same idea won’t mean a whole lot to them.

What Is The Right Idea For Your English?

So, I’m wondering if that’s what I do with this blog and email and video stuff.

Here’s an example of a case that went well.

Someone answered my survey and said, “David, I learn new vocabulary words. But then I forget them right away.”

Now, that’s an easy problem to solve.

I mean, if that’s a problem you have, just use an SRS.

Everybody knows that. Right?

Well, I guess not. Because after recording a video…a long-time friend and fellow teacher said…

“You know what I hate about you. All the stuff that you know and take forever to share with us.”

And I was thinking like “What are you talking about?”

This is like simple stuff that I think everybody knows.

Common sense stuff.

To me this is normal, because I study and read about this stuff all the time for myself and to help my students.

And so, that’s why I started to think that..

  1. There is a lot of stuff I know that I haven’t told you because I just assumed everybody knows it.
  2. I’ve been sharing advanced ninja technique ideas that I think are cool…but aren’t the problems you face in your day to day.

I don’t know.

Maybe this is something you already realized.

It’s just that I’m kind of dense and take 10 years of blogging random, non-helpful ideas that you don’t need or want.

So, I’ve decided that…

I’m just going to start answering questions that you guys have.

Instead of trying to thinking up amazing stuff in the night…that you might not even like.

I’m just going to start answering questions that you guys send me by email or post in the comments on the blog.

Seriously. Like you can do that right now.

Just send me an email or leave a comment and tell me what you want to know.

I’ll try to answer them all.

If everybody sends me questions and I get 23.000 questions…

Well, let’s just say that it might take me a long time to answer yours.

But I’ll do my best.

So, that means that…2 things are going to change around here.

Number one…

I’m not going to try to do any fancy technology stuf.

I’m just going to focus on what I do best.

Help you come up with solutions to biggest problems in English.

That means, if you want a course…

I’m not going to try to create a course for you.

I’ll just recommend other courses that are available.

Trying to reinvent the wheel just take time away from helping more people.

If there isn’t a course available to resolve your particular problem…

And there are enought people interested in that course…

I’ll see if I can find someone to create it for us.

Either another teacher or a student who has already found an elegant solution.

Because I want to help you find elegant solutions for your problems quickly.

I used to think that if there was a problem, I should try to solve it.

But I only have so much time in a day.

And what I do best is helping people like you find elegant solutions.

I have a lot of experience and…

I’ve probably seen just about every language learning problem out there.

So, I can analyze your English fluency level and provide a solution fairly quickly.

Now, you might like my ideas and you might not.

But that’s okay.

I promise not to fight with you over it.

I’ll just try to help you find an idea or solution that you do like.

Number 2

And now we come to the second thing that’s going to change around here.

I want to help you connect more with other English students.

That way, you can communicate and talk with other students like yourself.

You can help each other learn and practice your English.

Now, I don’t know exactly how this will work…

Because I don’t know what you like.

  • It might be a forum,
  • it might be a facebook group,
  • it might be a google community, or
  • any one of 100 other different ideas.

But I think that if we are going to be successfully help you learn English…

That we need to find a way to connect with each other and communicate more effectively.

Remember, that I said that I don’t want to worry about the technology part of all this.

I’m going to work with you on your English

Don’t you think that out of 23,000+ people in our community…

That we have one or two people who are good at technology and good at connecting people?

Maybe it’s you.

  • Maybe you can help me out.
  • Maybe you have good ideas for helping this community.
  • Maybe you have a great idea for improving English.
  • Maybe you are a great writer and can help us out…you can take one of these ideas and explain it better than me.
  • Maybe you are good with videos and can take one of these ideas and make an amazing video or podcast from it for the community.
  • Maybe you are a great translator and can translate this into another langauge to help other students.

I mean…I don’t know what you are good at.

But you do.

So, you tell me…

What Are You Good At?

I want you to tell me how you think this community can grow.

  • What are your ideas?
  • How do you think we can help each other learn English better and faster?

I’m here listening and ready to help.

But I want to work with you.

Now, that means that we are going to need to redefine a couple of things.

First, the name.

I picked this name because I thought it was good.

But I think we can find a name that defines the community.

What is the focus of this community.

You’re studying English.

You are a maven.

Maybe we can call it the English Maven Mastermind.

Or not.

We can talk about ideas for a better name that defines who we are.

We can talk about a better platform for communicating and sharing ideas.

There are a lot things we can do if we put our minds to it.

We can learn English faster and better if we want to.

So, the question is…

Do you like this idea and do you want to do this?

Tell me what you think?

I’m here listening to you.

I’m here to help.

I really am sorry

I’m sorry for taking so long to figure out what I was doing wrong.

I’m sorry I haven’t been a better help.

And I promise to do my best…and keep improving as we go.

Warm Regards,
David “This is straight from my heart” Bailey

P.S. I still have a whole lot of ideas to help you learn English…that I have never shared.

I’m more than happy to share them with you.

But I’ll only do it if you ask and it’s a solution to your problems.

So, start asking.

I’m waiting to answer your questions.

Just click send…or leave a comment on the blog

P.P.S. Also, I know we have a lot of portuguese speakers on this list.

I could translate this myself, but that would take away time that I can answer questions and help you.

So, I ran it through Google Translator and wanted to know if there is someone here who can check this and correct the mistakes.

I believe it will help basic students who don’t understand everything I’ve written in English.

And besides helping other people, this can help you practice your translation skills. 😉

And since I speak fluent portugese…I can tell you if it’s right and make corrections as needed to help you learn new words and expressions.

If you’d like to help…here is the link at https://draftin.com/

P.P.S. Normally, I would tell you what my next message is going to be about.

But since I promised to only answer your questions…I don’t even know what I’m going to write about yet.

It’ll be a secret for both of us.

So stay tuned…

I can’t wait to talk to you again.

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Comments

  1. Yeah! Thanks for reading and leaving a commen! I’m right here listening to you. 😉

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